Tag: Teens

  • Teaching the Last Lecture: 25 High School Lessons & Activities

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    The Last Lecture is a great book. (The speech also can be watched.) It teaches so many life lessons. I have been using this book for the last few years in a senior elective course. My students read independently in class for 20 – 30 minutes. I find this method to be most effective for my classes, you may choose to use the book as an outside reading.
    For the silent sustained reading, the students fill out a journal entry at the end of the reading session. (If any teacher would like a copy of my Silent Sustained Reading Chart, please email me, mark@mytowntutors.com.)
    For a more detailed Click on the link to see a more detailed account of the lesson. (I will be adding future posts for many of the activities.)

    Randy Pausch: The Last Lecture

    25 Activities


    1. Life list – 25 – 50 items that you hope to accomplish in your life. (Make it an IMPORTANT part of your life. Look at it regularly!)
    2. Family Stories – “All parents want to teach their children right from wrong, what we think is important, and how to deal with the challenges life will bring. We also want them to know some stories from our lives.” (page ix)
    3. “If I were a painter, I would have painted for them. If I were a musician, I would have composed music. But I am a lecturer. So I lectured.” – use your talents.
    4. “What makes me unique?” (page 9)
    5. ROLES – “I thought about how I defined myself: as a teacher, a computer scientist, a husband, a father, a son, a friend, a brother, a mentor to my students. Those are all the roles I value.” (page 10)
    6. “We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” (page 17)
    7. Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams – Select a CURRENT dream of yours. Something you are very passionate and enthusiastic about. Write about what it is. Why it is important? How will you progress toward that dream?
    8. Parent Lottery – This is a great activity for students to reflect about their relationships with their parents. Awesome to complete around Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Graduation.
    9. POSTER “I want to paint things on my wall. Things that matter to me. Things I think will be cool.” (page 27)
    10. What is the “it” in your life? “It [football] helped make me who I am today.” (page 35)
    11. How have you EARNED self-esteem? “Giving kids self-esteem. It’s not something you can give. It’s something they have to build. .. He knew there was only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can’t do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process… He made me realize that if I work hard enough, there will be things I can do tomorrow that I can’t do today.” (page 37)
    12. “So that was my setback. But I kept my mantra in mind: The brick walls are there for a reason. They’re not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.” (page 51-52) Describe a brick wall you encountered and the steps you took to show how badly you wanted something.
    13. “Wow, this is the epitome of a person appreciating this day and this moment.” (page 64) Identify a person who you know who “appreciates” life the most.
    14. “Like many people, I had strengths that were also flaws.” (page 67) Do a little self-reflection and evaluate yourself analyzing a strength that also might be considered a weakness. This is a great question to answer well. A common interview question is what is your greatest weakness?
    15. “The number one goal of teachers should be to help students learn how to learn. I always saw value in that, sure. But in my mind, a better number one goal was this: I wanted to help students learn how to judge themselves… educators best serve students by helping them be more self-reflective.” (page 112) Reflect on yourself.
    16. “I’m a scientist who sees inspiration as that ultimate tool for doing good…. When you’re putting people on the moon, you’re inspiring all of us to achieve the maximum human potential, which is how the greatest problems will be solved.” (page 132-133) What inspires you? What is your inspiration?
    17. “Too many people go through life complaining about there problems…Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won’t make us happier.” (page 138-139) Evaluate your level of complaining. Do you complain often or do you look on the bright side? What do you complain about? Do you think if you complain less you would be happier?
    18. “If nobody ever worried about what was in other people’s heads, we’d all be 33 percent more effective in our lives and our jobs.” (page 141) Are you overly concerned with what others think?
    19. “Being able to work well in a group is a vital and necessary skill in both the work world and in families. As a way to teach this, I’d always put my students into teams to work on projects.” (page 142) How well do you work with others? Do you enjoy group work? Why or why not?
    20. “Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you wanted. And experience is often the most valuable thing you have to offer.” (page 149) Describe an experience where you gained experience. Be detailed in your narrative. What was the event and the lesson that was learned?
    21. “Because hand-written notes have gotten so rare, they will remember you… My advice was more about helping them recognize that there are respectful, considerate things that can be done in life that will be appreciated by the recipient, and that only good things can result.” (page 152) We have completed many of these types of activities so far. Describe the process and reaction.
    22. There is No Job Beneath You – “There is a growing sense of entitlement among young people today.”  (page 168) He is calling you out? Is he right?
    23. “There are a few key moments in anyone’s life.” (page 173) Select a few and describe the moment and the significance in your life.
    24. “All of us have a responsibility to the community…When we’re connected to others, we become better people.” (page 175 – 176) Comment on this quote and apply it to your personal experiences with community service.
    25. Create a Last Lecture to present to the class. A variation could be a slide show or a video production.
    I would love feedback from teachers if you try any of these activities. If you have any additional questions, please email mark@mytowntutors.com.
     

  • Self-Reliance and Independence: Giving Our Teens the Ultimate Gift

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    What every parent wants for their child is to give them the tools to become mature adults who know how to make good decisions for themselves.
    So, how can we help our kids learn how to make good decisions for themselves? When they leave the house at 18 years old, and we are nowhere around, if they are faced with a problem, they can look into their bag of tools and make a decision that is in their best interest.
    The way I see it is if you want to get good a something, you have to practice. So, we have to give our kids practice with making decisions. Every time an issue arises, whether it be theirs or someone else’s, is an opportunity to let them practice. When something comes up where a decision needs to be made, instead of saying, “This is the way it is because I’m your parent,” try sitting with them and discussing the problem. Right down the pros and cons and ask them what decision would they make and why. Don’t get emotionally involved; in other words, try to keep your fears out of it.
    Here’s an example: Your daughter says something about a girl at school who is smoking cigarettes at 12 years old. Instead of freaking out and saying, “ Are you kidding? She is way too young to smoke. Do her parents know about this?” This is an opportunity to communicate with your teen. By the way, the definition of communication is, “the exchange of information between individuals, not the opinion of one person.”  Ask your teen what she thinks about smoking, what are the things that are cool about it, and what are the things that are not good about it. You may be saying,  “COOL ABOUT IT? Are you crazy? There is nothing cool about it.”  Again, your opinion is not communication.  I guarantee there are kids that think smoking is cool. What are the pros and cons? Ask how they feel about smoking, and what they think about this teen smoking at 12, and if they think it is a good decision or not.  I’m not suggesting if they come up with more reasons to smoke then not that you buy them a pack of cigarettes.
    Teens are pretty smart. Give them the opportunity to show you they have a good head on their shoulders. Again, the goal is to help them practice making good decisions. Don’t make the decisions for them through your opinions. What we want is for our teens to feel free to come to us with anything, If they feel judgments from us, which most of the time our opinions will feel like, they will not want to communicate with us.
    So, here are the tips, plain and simple:

    • Start communicating with your teen; leave your opinions out of the conversation.
    • Every time something comes up that appears to be a good topic, eg. smoking, drinking, body image, sex, drugs, friendships, careers, schools, style, any topic will do, practice, practice, practice!
    • Practice by asking them questions about how they feel about it, go over the pros and cons, and ask them what they would do and why.
    • Use their mistakes for the opportunity to learn.

    The more they learn how to make good decisions, the better decisions they will make for themselves when you are not around.  They acquire more confidence with who they are and continue to make good decisions. Would you agree that you, as a parent, have more experience with decision-making then your 13 year old? Of course, you do. So, make sure they feel free to come to you to learn this valuable process.
    Parents, to learn how to help you teens make better decisions for themselves, check out my online program “4 Weeks To Connect With Your Teens” Summer Special Link.
    To learn how you can also jumpstart building a better and stronger relationship with your teen, please sign up for a 15-minute Complimentary Discovery Session with me where I can help you break down some of your biggest obstacles.  Feel free to sign up for your free session here: http://meetme.so/DebraBeck
    This is my PERSONAL calendar, so please take advantage and I look forward to talking to you soon!
    ©2007-2011 Debra Beck, EmpoweredTeensandParents.com
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    Teen and parenting mentor Debra Beck, who has spent over 20 years working with teens and parents, is a devoted mother, sought-after presenter, and author. She now runs her popular parenting website, EmpoweredTeensandParents.com, publishes the “Empowered Teens and Parents” newsletter, encourages girls to be the best “young women” possible, and gives moms and dads the understanding they need to help their girls mature with pride and confidence.  Debra has helped thousands of teenage girls with their self-esteem.  Her award-winning book “My Feet Aren’t Ugly: A Girl’s Guide to Loving Herself from the Inside Out”, has been revised and updated for re-release in September 2011 with Beaufort Books.